Dear
Mr. Shy Guy,
First
of all, is she dating someone? If so you'll not only look
like a silly fool, you'll be very disappointed. If she is
available....well here we go.
Wait
till the next event is coming up, post to her (on MSN
& Yahoo)
that you hope to see her there to, something like; hey this
looks fun, will you be going too?
DON'T
say much of anything else, wait for a response. She may say
one of several things.
1. HER; I may go, but it seems a little far for me.
YOU; If your interested in going, maybe we could get a few
of the others together & car pool. (non threatening, "others"
is used to provide security for her sake.)
2. HER; no I am not going to make this one I have other plans.
YOU;Other plans? Will you be busy all weekend? My friend and
I are going out Sat night to ______ would you like to join
us. (non threatening.)
3. HER; who the hell are you and what's it to you?!
YOU; We met at _____ I was asking you because I enjoyed seeing
your beautiful face and was hoping, I would get the chance
to see it again.
HERE'S
THE THING;
DON'T email her out of the blue, and ask her out. When you
see her post, respond to it. Then at the next event you could
start by talking about the posts on the message boards. Make
sure, not to expose your intentions of dating her until you
become somewhat sure of her interest in you. (This is done
so you don't seem like a SILLY FOOL)
And
if I see you just sitting there, staring at her, not going
for it, You'll see me walk away hand and hand with her. (at
that time I will turn to you and say YOU SILLY FOOL).
BE
STRONG!
GOOD LUCK!
LuckyLeo
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Dear
Mr. Shy Guy,
You don't think she took notice. Do you know why that would
be? When you said hello to her, did you just walk away after?
You could have given her the impression that you weren't interested
in her?
Saying
hello is a start. Being shy is a quality that sometimes is
very hard to overcome.
NJ-Singles.com has a few outlets for this.
1. Our message boards (on MSN & Yahoo)
are always full with topics of interest or just idle chit-chat.
If she posts....then respond to her posts. Try to get involved
and strike up a topic of interests this way, and maybe that
will lead to one-on-one emails.
2. We have started chat again. Hopefully she participates
and so should you.
3. Since you met her at an outing then go to another one and
find a seat near her. Strike up a conversation about the outing,
the weather, her sweater or just about anything. Women
usually know when the man is shy and they are looking for
conversation. If we are interested we will usually make the
conversation easy going and free flowing.
4. You could also send her an eCard
or Poof-TA-DA,
something simple, non committal, just say"hi" again
5. And last but not least, talk to the people who put the
event together where you met her. Ask them what they know
about her. Find out if she's seeing someone and was only at
the event to hang out with friends.
Anything
you do will be the beginning of breaking the ice and also
helping you through your shyness. Sometimes you need to take
a chance and push that shyness down deep. If you do not try,
you will never know. Hey.....she may be just as shy as you
are.....did you ever think of that :-)
No
More Mr. Shy Guy
Good Luck,
Leandra
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