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Dear
Lonely Traveler,
Is
8 months worth keeping? This is a personal question you may
want to ask yourself. If it is (sounds like it is from your
letter), then let's talk about it. Let him know how you feel
and find out he feels. For the loneliness, I recommend a pet.
Long distance relationships are tough but can be successful.
Trust
is something many think we have to earn but few understand
it is something we give and then build on. I give my friends
trust to not hurt my feelings when I tell them something dear
to my heart. If that goes well, they get more. If not, they
get nothing.
You
say you trust him, then do that. Listen to your heart and
your gut. Talk to your friends who are in long-term relationships
or marriages. They will help you get through this. You don't
need someone telling you how you
SHOULD feel. You decide how you feel and how you act. In the
end YOU reap the rewards or pay the price.
Dictionary.com
defines love "A deep, tender, ineffable feeling of affection
and solicitude toward a person, such as that arising from
kinship, recognition of attractive qualities, or a sense of
underlying oneness"
Yours
in service,
Lou
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Dear
Lonely Traveler,
Get yourself a passport and earning frequent flyer miles.
This should be just a new chapter in your relationship not
the end of the book.
I'm
a little concerned with why you will be jealous. Are you jealous
of the new job and new life? Or do you think your loved one
will find someone new? He sees other girls in the US all the
time, what makes you think his head will turn when he moves
to England?? Has he asked you to go with him? Has he asked
you to go visit him? Answer these questions truthfully. If
you don't like your answers then how serious can this relationship
be?
If
you are happy with your answers and truly believe you will
always be together, then be prepared to work double time to
keep this relationship on track. Let him get himself settled
in his new apartment and job.
Find
something to fill up your time instead of sitting by the phone
waiting for his call. You may even want to get a 2nd job to
pay for your airfare or take up a cooking class to dazzle
him with a special meal when you visit. Each time you contact
him whether it be by email, letter, card, or singing telegram,
make each note special and thoughtful.
Do
not suffocate him with too many phone calls or emails. Pace
yourself and your pocketbook. The fastest way to drive a man
away is to complain. He's busy! Heck maybe he got lost in
the London Fog and couldn't find his way back to his new pad.
The last thing he wants is a girlfriend who is whining.
Do
not stop living life just because you are apart. Relationships
can survive many obstacles and so can yours.
Be
strong and keep your chin up,
Lucia
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